Mommy Roxi - Mr. Jacob's Mom | Pregnancy Motherhood Lifestyle ...

Sigh, today was very unexpected! Jacob's Yaya (in English term, Nanny) left unexpectedly without saying good bye. Actually she did say that she was going to leave end of the month and I told her it's no problem and that we'd still give her a whole month's salary. But I guess she couldn't wait. We consider having a nanny and other house help a big luxury here in the country. I know how hard it is to find good childcare in the States and how costly it can be.

Having someone help around the house and with Jacob is a big advantage for us here. I can work full-time without worrying about the dishes or lunch and dinner. Mom loves her garden so they take care of that too. Basically all the house keeping is taken care of. None of us here had any clue that she'd be leaving immediately because we all knew she'd leave on the 30th. Apparently she left late last night when all of us were in our rooms.

My Mom went downstairs to do her usual rounds of checking if our doors our locked, etc. And she saw our garage door was unlocked. She thought Oscar just went outside and we thought nothing of it. Until this morning that is. Our other helpers and our Aunt's helper were trying to wake Jacob's yaya up so they could get inside the house, to no avail. That's when my Mom went down to open the door herself. They went into her room and saw it empty (except our things that were temporarily stored there). Her drawers were empty and so were her other things. We initially thought she brought the key of our house gate with her but it was left on top of the kitchen counter.

To make things worse, she apparently owed money from her Aunt (who brought her in) and to my friend who has a business of selling clothes and bags. But I am most thankful that she left quietly. Meaning she didn't take any of our things at home (that we know of or at least would not be that valuable that we'd actually go after her for it). And most especially that she didn't take Jacob. A Mother's worst nightmare would be her child getting kidnapped. So thank God that she was a kind yaya.

I actually felt sad when she said she needed to go home because Jacob loved her and she seemed like she enjoyed taking care of Jacob. But only this late afternoon that I learned from our Aunt's helper who live next door that Jacob's yaya hated kids before she went here and apparently during the first few weeks. I guess eventually she got used to Jacob and then she got pregnant. They said that they noticed her being more playful with Jacob and would sometimes pinch him for being too cute and chubby. Dear God I hope those weren't painful pinches or else I'd pinch her back harder. But really all in all, I can't say that I didn't like her as our nanny because she took care of Jacob well. She never hurt him (that he heard of nor did Jacob had any signs of abuse ever) and lately she really has been more playful with him.

And now we found out that her Father wasn't really expecting her to come home by the end of the month contrary to what she initially said when she told us she was leaving. Actually, she's been telling us that she was going to leave. First was when her grandfather passed away around All Soul's Day. But we told her that instead of her using her salary to go home, she can just send all of it home to her family and we'd give her a bonus. Add to the fact that we knew that if she goes back, she won't return. So that passed and then she brought it up again when our house help returned for her vacation leave. Same reason. But now that we learned that her family was never expecting her to come home at all, I guess that was her way of asking to leave. I felt bad not allowing her to leave then, especially when her grandpa passed.

But I wish she had left our family in good terms. It left a bad taste in our mouth because we thought she was as innocent as she looked. She was quiet, but she got the job done. She even did a better job than our house help taking care of the house all the while juggling chasing after Jacob when that helper took a leave. It's really sad that she had to leave. We treated her like family. She just turned 18 (yes, she's that young!) so I saw her like a sibling (even though I never had anyone younger than me in the family). Really, I wouldn't stop her from going. If she wanted to elope with her boyfriend next door, she can do whatever she want. Heck, I would have given her folic acid to take with her if I had known she was pregnant! Or I would have taken her to the doctor to get checked up to make sure she's okay.

Looking back, the signs were there but I brushed it off as her having motion sickness because #1, she was young! And #2, she never goes out of the house! But apparently she does every early morning when we're all asleep so she can go to her boyfriend's house. She always gets sick whenever we'd go out with her. We'd have to stop the car so she can get off and do her business. It was awful but I felt bad for her because it was her first time to be in the city and probably in a car. My goodness. But really, I would have helped her out more if I had known!

Sigh, again. I guess I'm just a bit shocked. But still thankful. Now we're changing the locks at home and being more careful in finding Jacob's next yaya. Actually, I kind of want to have him for myself for the mean time since I don't have a full-time job yet. I can take care of him but I dread chasing after him! Maybe it'll be good for me too, huh? Loose weight, get some exercise! Yes, we can do this!

Thanks for letting me vent out (you had no choice anyway! ;p). Jacob and I will be alright!

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Source: http://www.mommyroxi.com/2012/11/yaya-problems-nanny-problems.html

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